Yeah, I agree, thanks labug. I really don't think they would say anything negative about me, but you never know. I have pulled back anyway other than the football game because W has caused them a lot of stress.

Update in sitch:

I had to call W today because she filed divorce based on very strong grounds (extreme cruelty and gross neglect). These are a joke and W knows it, but I can't take it lightly. She and I agreed to convert it to a no-fault dissolution, but I need to know for sure that's happening so I can decide to respond. She said she would call attorney in the AM.

We had talked previously about the past Monday where she had come and declared she loved me, wanted to be married to me, and believed God wanted her to stay - but then she got mad about something, and went back on it. We had talked later about "retrying" that Monday to see how things went...

She told me today that she didn't think trying it again would make a difference; that we would just end up fighting again. I told her that was fine; I'm ready to move on with a new chapter in life, and I was pretty tired of the exhausting back and forth.

W: "Then why should we try the Monday thing again if you're done?"
Me: "I'm simply pointing out that I'm not a big fan of the back and forth. It makes it very hard for me to understand what the situation is and how we're proceeding."
W: "Well, I wasn't lying about what I said Monday."
Me: "You meant every word?"
W: "Yes."
Me: "I appreciate you saying that, but the fact that you're still pressing divorce doesn't seem to make a lot of sense then. Regardless, I just feel like I need to do the right thing."
W: "I don't want you to just want to do the right thing, I want you to love me."
Me: "I don't feel 'lovey-dovey' right now, but I am willing to commit to my marriage even when I don't feel like it. That should make you feel better rather than some random feeling. D13 is in love with One Direction, but that doesn't mean it means anything. :)"
W: "I'm busy working my new job this week, then moving all weekend. Can I take some time to think and you can call me this time next week about trying the Monday thing again?"


So, I pretty much gave her a complete out and she didn't take it. She could've said, "no, I'm done, let's sign and get it over with". Now I'm sitting here wondering if I'm being used/played and I should just sign the paperwork and move on, or if W is having legitimate second thoughts. Or maybe she just feels guilty? A little mind-reading, I know, but bleah.

So, I guess I'll just go dark; and call her next Tuesday.