Is she sharing a picture of our beautiful boy with me or is she saying "look your missing out". I have no idea.
Sure you do! I tried to tell you last time that if you could hold out, she wouldn't last long before she would holler, "I need a break". She takes more breaks than any mother I've ever heard about. And I'm sorry, but I disagree with your statement of her not working b/c she loves being a mom. She's too eager to get rid of her kids in order to have her "free" time. It would really be hard for her to be in a MR with the father of her children, since it would mean being a full time parent.
I'm not saying she doesn't love them or that she's not a good mother. But she is not the only parent that has a child with special needs or that is difficult to keep day in and day out. That is what parents do! But she wants to pick and choose when she wants to parent or not.
She uses her own flesh & blood to manipulate you. She knew exactly what she was doing when she threw those anniversary dates at you. Christmas, too. In most places in USA, when a couple are legally S or D, one parent would get Christmas Eve and the other parent would get Christmas Day. Then next year they would swap. Some courts set it up a bit differently, but one parent doesn't get to hog all of the holidays or tell the other parent when they can or can't see their kids. She knows she doesn't do right by you. When she gets mad, she uses the children to punish you.
My guess is that OM2 hasn't gone very well and instead of doing what's right, or even reaching out to you, she tries to make you jealous by bringing up Christmas vacation AGAIN, hoping to pull you back into her webb. Because that is how she operates. But you didn't respond quite like you use to do when you were grabbing at her crumbs. You have grown into a stronger man. You are becoming your own person. You are not bowing down and letting her lead you around by your nose. And it made her mad, so she tried to punish you since you were not happy to eat her LEFT OVERS. I mean seriously, this is all she does. And if you went back to her with your tail between your legs, she would still see other guys and play the same games b/c she doesn't want you bad enough.
You keep bringing up how you've had the kids nearly every weekend for 14 months. You are the only one who can change it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
