Well its now been 9 months of separation. My wife had asked me to move out cause she needed time to see if she wanted to even be married to me anymore. I got "the speech", ILYB. It took me a good 3 months to even come to terms what was happening. I wasn't always there for her or my family due to work, and now looking back, some deep seeded parent issues I wasn't even aware of that came out during 6 months of IC.
Sorry I should have prefaced this by saying I have a post under a diff user name, but my kids informed me my wife was reading it. So I took an extended break and started this ID. I wont post the link, cause the reality of it is that it sounds like so many other WAS stories, only the names and dates have been changed to protect the innocent (lol).
Anyways, back to my questions. I've changed so much, my wife has really noticed this new person. She's been coming over and talking to me (I was full 180). Listening, validating, really just trying to be there in a way I wasn't before. I was out of town for 10 days on a project. When I returned she'd come to my place, cleaned the house, stocked my refrig. bought me some new socks/underwear/shirts.
Today she came over and said, "Just come home. We'll figure it out". I asked her if she thought things could be different if I came home. She said she just wants to be happy, but that she doesn't know whats gonna make her happy. She loves me but, she's still confused about a lot of stuff, but that she'd be fine with me at home and not to expect anything right away. She's basically been this home body for 6 months now, which is almost funny/strange that is exactly what she was complaining about in the first place.
So, is it a good idea? no there was no affair. Do I need to have a better reason, is this the first step in trying to piece my marriage back together? Should I ask for MC or take it slow if I do come back home? Do I wanna come home, absolutely, but is it for a good enough reason. I'm confused. any advice would be helpful. Thx in advance.
