Thank you so much, BF, Left, and Busting. I'm still in healing mode and as you said, Busting, I'm faced with another test. I think this is definitely what Joe brought about himself through his actions, so he'll have to deal with the consequences.
He said, "We'll see how things go." Then he added, "I have a feeling it's not going to end well." I said, "I do, too." But this is what he'll have to deal with.
He's going to a conference I'm attending on Saturday, and before he dropped the "bomb" I agreed to talk to him after the conference was over to "catch up." Before we hung up, he reminded me we'd talk after the conference, but now I don't want to. I actually feel like getting rid of every item I owe that he gave me or reminds me of him. I'm thinking about emailing him or calling tomorrow and telling him the truth: that I don't want to talk to him on Saturday--or never, but maybe it's best to give an excuse? I want to be authentic--that's one of my personal goals.
I also wonder whether he's going to be a pest, asking me when I'm going to make more money so he can start paying less support. I don't want that kind of pressure. Should I just stop all communication with him?
Here I was, hoping for a restored R and that in a few years he would potentially find someone to settle down with (after we had both healed) or even that once he'd learned his lessons we'd find our way back to each other (yes, I did consider that,) and now I don't want any relationship with him at all. Everything seems to happen too fast...but that's Joe. I feel it's a gift that he actually left me. I think I would've been very unhappy by his side.
What do you guys think about Saturday? Excuse? Truth? Email or call to let him know?
