Kat - D14 is in counseling. She seems to be the one most affected. She was seeing my counselor (mid 50's, male), but my S thought she might do better with a younger female counselor. I found one and she just saw her last week. I am going to setup a weekly counseling appointment.
In our argument, I mentioned that I am paying for the kids counseling without any financial help from my W. She said she wouldn't help because it was a waste of money. they don't need counseling.