Lanzo, I spent most of my marriage giving in to her and avoiding conflict. this was a 180 off me. i thought I could learn to assert myself without these issues escalating.
Every time I have tried, however, it ends up escalating into a mess. I don't know how to establish boundaries with her. I really thought I took a reasoned approach on this one.
The money isn't that important. It is such a small fraction of the bills that I am already paying. It is the disrespect. Once I give in to a bully who is willing to use my kids to manipulate me, where does it end?
Yes, I could just pay the bills and avoid the conflict. I am just not sure that is the right thing to do.
