Thanks F, T1000 and TTD180. I will take a look at that book/audio tape. I already have quite a collection of self help books I have been reading/still reading. TTD180, the rollercoaster ride is going uphill at the moment. Though I got a call from HR yesterday, to call them back. So will need to ring today. I am presuming it is about the transfer, fingers crossed it is a positive one. F, I do try to ask the forum for their views, but once we have an idea we do tend to want to do something about it. When there is very little reply (I understand others are not sitting at their computers ready to reply asap), it is hard not to go with the only answers you receive. While I do have plenty of time, it is a struggle with the emotional side taking that time.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.