Sorry it's been so long. I've been slammed at work and just can't seem to gain traction long enough to be back here often.
Just remember one thing:
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I told him that every time he hammers it home about his joy in his new life, he is hurting me and that he needed to go.
You really ought to stop saying this stuff to him - because these kinds of statements are all about you and your feelings and don't have compassion for him.
Look, I know it's hard to show compassion for the one person who keeps hurting you. But it's HIS journey and he needs space and time to figure some of this stuff out. If he still loves you, you're going to have to encourage him to see things differently. So try to muster some gratitude for him being the person who's forcing you to learn a new dance together. What was happening wasn't working, and now you get that chance.
So until you can show that you feel that way, all you need to do is nod and validate him. You say instead, "I can see why you feel that way now. I'm sorry it took us to get to this point." And leave it alone. Once he feels he can stop fighting you on the little stuff, he just might think about the big stuff.
Capisce?
Did you get that book?
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
