I think you're missing the point what everyone was saying.
"And just how is it that you have such an amazing degree of insight into a 20-year relationship that you know nothing about?"
We don't need insight and aren't taking sides. That's your own hurt feelings talking. But there's an old saying..."you can never slice anything so thin that it doesn't have two sides".
What your W did wasn't right. But she had her own reasons. Just as much as you have your own reasons for believing the way you do. Coming to terms with that and understanding your W's POV is how you start to turn things around.
If you do leave, that's a shame. But there is a way to salvage your relationship that's easy to see. You are wrong when you say that you aren't supported here. Dead wrong.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
