That means sucking it up. Taking it in the teeth. Is that weakness? Really? It's actually the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I don't know the deatils of your situation, but I do know watching my W walk in the door, knowing she was with the OM and accepting it for now, takes a lot more strength than you may think. I need to prove myself to her. Granted, her choices right now are wrong, but they're her choices. I need to work as hard as I can to encourage her to choose me again!
I could respond differently. I could be emotional, angry, demanding and draw lines in the sand, but I don't think I've earned that yet. . .
Man, there is a gullllllf of water between THOSE two extremes, DD! Nearly all the successful approaches I've seen over the years have plowed the fertile middle ground in one way or another.
FTR, no one is advocating "emotional" or "angry" here. On the contrary.
