As far as I can tell it's called "answering your questions"
Quote:
Me: Hey hon, what are the sleeping arrangements tonight? W: What do you want them to be? Me: I'd like to stay in our bed?
I would have made that last a statement rather than a question!
Quote:
"W, Yes, I did those things before, and I know how they must have sounded/felt to you. Doing those things didn't make me happy, and I don't think they made you happy either. I want the things we do and say to each other to be condusive of a wonderful, supporting, loving, caring, trusting marriage. ???whut else???"
Stay away from the wordy explanations. Just say you don't like sleeping on the couch and are going to sleep in the bed from now on. Do less beta and more alpha
