better to love or be loved?

[RosaLinda]

WbW "I know h is in an active affair and it does me no good to show disappointment. 

This is what is confusing to me. on the one hand I am bright and cheerful on the other, he gets away with his a. I want to be friendly, but its like I am giving him permission..."

Wonder is right, WillBe. You are not giving your H permission, just accepting that's where he is right now, giving him time and space to get it out of his system, and moving on with your own life in the meanwhile. As uRworthy would put it, "cherishing your H enough to let him go with love."

I know it hurts you to know your H is having an affair. It seems to be something most of these MLCers try in an attempt to feel better about themselves. But how can a relationship based on lies, cheating and deception make anyone feel better about themselves? Remember MLCers affair DOWN, not up like normal philanderers do!

He knows you are disappointed in him, but he needs to do this right now. Don't drive him away with recriminations. Just keep being your fabulous self. Give him space and don't approach him. When he approaches you, be attentive and cheerful and lovely. You will look so good to him in comparison to OW!!!