One giant leap forward! - Part 6

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T,

Is it just me or is this recent convo between you and W some kind of dejavu?

As I recall she did all this not that long ago – threatening, punitive, name calling and so on. Afterwards she went in the opposite direction.
If so she will properly come at you again!

You have properly written this somewhere but even though I have read all your threads I don’t remember:
When will S4 start preschool? (5y in England as I recall but not sure)
She moved 1½ hour drive away and most of the kids’ activities will be in her area?


I think the first thing you have to do is sort out your own wishes!
How do you think a schedule for the kids should be over a year?
Hollidays, Christmas, new-year, Easter, weekends, sports, friends – you will have to take it all into consideration and make a doable and fair schedule. Post it here, get comments and then meet up with W and talk about it.
If this doesn’t work the two of you will need assistance

When she said "Oh my F*ckin g*d" I should have left the conversation.

Or even earlier! You will do this next time. Perhaps you could make it a rule that when she start swearing, talking nasty or saying subjective unpleasant things you stop her.
I still believe convos like this should not be texted!

I would start working on the schedule and then leave it up to her to initiate communication for now.

And the one more thing:

I don't know.

This one also makes me recall discussions in your thread about you being manipulative, indecisive or something like that – I don’t recall the exact words but you properly do. She will get pi$$ed every time you do this so instead consider going with:
I will look into that and get back to you in a few days.
I will need to sort out work first and then I will….



Tough one, T – I think the job you have done with the kids is tremendous. Few fathers do that much and you should feel proud, so in short I also think you are an awesome farther.

All the best

F