You need to forget about your husband and what he is doing and start focusing on what you are doing. You must work on yourself and figuring out how to be happy, what you want to improve, etc. There isn't anything you can do about H and what he is doing, at least not now. There isn't anything you can say (or SIL, MIL, or his friend) that will change his mind.
Don't ask him to leave if you don't want him to. Take some time to really think about it so you are not making moves from a hurt, angry, emotional place. If the A is your boundary line, then ask him to leave; if it isn't, you have to think about what you want before you give any ultimatums.
If you want your M to work, forget all about H and worry about you, your children, your PMA and you GAL.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
