W: Just looking through the calendar and the weekend of the 28th December I am due to have the boys but I have a friends wedding. Are you able to have them that weekend? Obviously I'll be on vacation with the boys this Christmas so I'm not sure how you are wanting to divide the time.? Are you wanting me to keep for some time between Christmas and New Year or just keep seeing them at the weekends? I'm trying to get stuff sorted so if you could let me
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W: Know what your plans might be otherwise I'll just go ahead and carry on with my plans.
Me: I will have them the weekend of the 28th. W: Is that the only time you want them then, Me: If they are on vacation with you how would I have them? W: Do you want them the week on the Friday we leave vacation? You could collect them halfway? Me: I will have them the Friday until the Tuesday. W: Can you not have them for New Year? Me: I don't know. W: Well I'm trying to book stuff. Can you have them late Thursday 10th October til Monday 14th
I had already planned to not have the kids that weekend as it's our anniversary and I needed to GAL that weekend big time) Me: No sorry. What are wanting to do about S1's birthday? We: What about Thursday 3rd to the following Monday? Me: I have no more days left. W: I need a f**king break...so you have no holidays left til when??? Me: January W: Right so you've had 5 weeks holiday this year and I get no brea what so ever Me: I have a week off over Christmas but you want them that week. W: You trying to tell me you are working New Years day. Me: Right now no, theres been talk of it though. I would like to do something this New Year, I have been stuck in for the last 4. W: Oh my f**kin g*d M: And I haven't been stuck in. I looking after these kids 90% of the time. i need a break. You are being unfair. Me: You have had every weekend off for the last 14 months. W: And you have had 5 nights free every week for 14 months plus one weekend out of the month. Me: I've just had my 2nd weekend off in all that time. W: Obviously not. You'v also had 5 weeks off this year and not once taken them kids for a week. W: You're embarrassed to say that you are actually turning into a shi*t father. Me: I had 6 days off in January all spent with the kids, 5 in May, 4.5 spent with the kids, 10 in August, 6 spent with the kids. 21 days total 17.5 spent with the kids plus any bank holidays I had them plus every weekend. I'm an awesome father thank you very much. W: Don't kid yourself!! Me: I'm not. I even asked for the kids in August for mid week and you said no it will wreck their routine. W: It's fine. You carry on doing what you are doing. Because you can't have the kids any of the weekends I'm having to go away the weekend of S1's birthday. Don't worry...I won't put you out...I'm still have them on my usual weekend too. Me: Don't use the kids because your not getting your own way. W: Well i wold have had S1 here on his birthday anyway. Just so happens that I may as well use it to my advantage of you not wanting to have them an extra 2 nights. Your loss! Me: S1's Birthday is my weekend. It is something that needs discussing properly. W: Well that's tough now cos it's booked. We get back on the Tuesday if you can be arsed seeing the boys. Me: That's bullshit and you know it! Can you really take your anger out on me by denying the kids their Dad? W: Yes...very very easily!!!
I gave up this point.
When she said "Oh my F*ckin g*d" I should have left the conversation.
Does she realize that she starts off by wanting rid of the kids and then attacks with threats of keeping them?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
