I stole that from Ruby (Kate)....social experiment #2. Basically, 2nd lady I've dated since D.
Originally Posted By: kate's_place
Oh, SE2, sounds interesting
Yeah, she is really interesting. We click on an awful lot of stuff. I used to think XW and I were so good together because we were opposite on a lot of stuff, and I guess that is true. SE2 and I are a lot more in sync, and not just on the normal stuff, but growth in the last few years as well. Whether that makes us a great match or great friends is yet to be seen.
you sound good breakdown. you sound like you are clear in vision. that is good. :-)
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
XW came by last week one night to pick up the kids. She had a rough day and we got to chatting and had a couple of beers. At some point she said she missed our interactions and eventually I simply asked her, "What is it you want?"
She basically indicated reconciliation and I told her, "You've known for a very long time how that would start, yet you've never been willing to do it," (meaning, no contact with OM). She responded, "Maybe I am now." Not a super endorsement for effort there, but I guess time will tell.
At some point, she also told me she remembered seeing my handle here and one weekend looked up and read all my posts. She had mentioned reading my story once before and I wasn't sure how I felt about it, but there's not really anything here that I wouldn't say directly to her. So with that, "Hi XW!!"
I've been reading "Surviving an Affair" recently and I wish I had read it sooner. It really helps you understand affairs and it's helped me get to a place of forgiveness for a few things I was struggling with.
My H is at the same place, kind of, where, he says, his head knows he should be back here, but he has to make sure it is what his heart wants as well. I can't ask much more, can I?
Hopefully your XW is beginning to reach the same place.
My H is at the same place, kind of, where, he says, his head knows he should be back here, but he has to make sure it is what his heart wants as well. I can't ask much more, can I?
Hopefully your XW is beginning to reach the same place.
LOL I was just in your thread and almost posted how similar our relationships seem at times. They both seem "on the edge of getting it" so often, yet we're still both stuck just on the outside.
XW did ask if she could read "Surviving an Affair" when I finished with it, and I have kindle edition so I just ported it to her ipad. Now I'll guess we'll see if she was serious.
