My kids want to go to Comic con, so I wonder if I will end up mired in Manga with D14
I kind of understand where your wife might be coming from. You said that the whole not picking kids up/no quality time is such a change for her. I spent the past 17 years as primary caregiver for sure, while H worked ad commuted. This past couple of months, i spent way less time with the kids than ever before. A little different, because at 14 and 17 they are capable of being alone, even overnight if necessary.
But I was finally putting myself first and I think if I had someone (if H had some custody at all) I would feel that I could let go even more.
This is not to say that I have continued my wild ways lol, now that things get busy, but only I understand how seductive it is to think only of one's self. Eventually though, I missed the company of my kids more than I craved the "me" time
