My son seems to be taking all this pretty well overall. Not too much drama for him fortunately. I'm thinking that he'd gotten so used to his dad spending so much time away from home that it's not much different for him now than it was when H lived with us.
It was a bit strange sitting there acting as if everything was fine, especially when the staff commented that they hadn't seen us for a while. H simply said something about having been busy. It was afunny how they all commented that they really like my new hairstyle - and said it with H sitting there with me, when H has said he doesn't like it at all. He also had to point out that he'd had a hair cut as well as none of them had noticed. That seemed a bit like a kid having to show off something just because one of his friends did.
The strangest thing I've noticed though is that since last Tuesday when H told me he was done working on our M, he's been a lot friendlier and lot more talkative. He's even stopped constantly texting back and forth with anyone else when I'm with him. I don't know whether it's because he feels the pressure is off or if there's more to it. Either way, I'm not reading anything into it.
One of the women I work with told me today that her H moved out last weekend - he needs some space and time to figure things out. We'd been talking about our H's for a while now and she's convinced hers is MLC. I tend to agree with her based on how he's been over the last few months - specifically since his 50th birthday. She's taking it pretty well so far and I've told her that if I can return the "shoulder to cry on or ears to vent to" favour for her, she knows where to find me. She says she now understands why I've been so reluctant to just break things off with my H and been so willing to try and work things out - although as far as she knows there is no OW in her sitch.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
It's good that you've now got a friend who you can compare notes with and wants her H back as well It made me laugh when you said that your H pointed out that he'd had his hair cut as well, lol. When my H dyed his hair, he kept commenting on it and when we were in the car he kept looking at himself in the mirror, lol. He kept on about my hair as well and have I thought about dying mine. I felt like saying no as I'm not having a MLC, but managed to stop myself from saying this Right after he said do you like my hair? he then said and no I'm not going through a MLC. Yeah right!! lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
My H didn't like it the few times I did dye my hair. I have natural red undertones and no matter what shade I tried it came out more red than I would have liked. I've given up dying and am just letting it go naturally salt & pepper. Hey, it works for Dame Helen Mirren and for Jamie Lee Curtis, amongst other actresses.
Right now it looks like I've got two teenagers on my hands - and the actual teenager is generally more grown up than his dad LOL.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
lol NQ, I know what you mean about two teenagers. I always said I have 2 boys living with me and when people say I thought you only had one son I would say, yes and then there's the H, lol. Girls all knew where I was coming from with this He seems to got worse since he left. Whenever he gets annoyed I call it throwing his toys out of his pram My friends all laugh when I told them he's dyed his hair. They all know he's going through an MLC, funny that H is the only one who says he isn't, lol. I don't dye my hair either. Once the roots start coming through it will make my few grey hairs I've got stand out I did think about putting foils in my hair though My friend has got all different shades of brown in her and it looks fab
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I'm starting to feel the urge to dye my hair. Maybe highlights. Spike it up. Hey, I want my MLC, too!
NQ, did you recommend DBing to your friend? I always recommend DR book. I have a FB friend from high school who was having a big blow up with her H the day after my W left. I told her about it. I think she read it. She said today she put her foot down and they're going to a counselor. I advised her to be careful... My only couples counseling experience, with my first W, was a textbook example of the worst case examples MWD describes....
Helen Mirren is a national treasure! As is Judy Dench.
I haven't had the chance to but I will definitely be pointing her this way. She got paged to take a phone call just as she was telling me and we didn't get another chance to talk.
Hey, Judi Dench is another one that works the grey hair. I'm definitely in good company LOL. I wouldn't dye your hair - men look much more dignified with a bit of grey. As long as they don't have a ponytail - which is what my H has just gotten rid of once again.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
lol, I knew someone who had a ponytail. He had it cut off for charity. He looks a lot more dignified now I don't think MH was serious, lol. MLC costs too much MH, you don't want one of those, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
well at least a pony tail won't cost you as much as a new hair do You could always have the hairdressing students practice on you, put a few streaks in and spike it up. You could end up with green hair though! lol. Just kidding!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
NQ, did you recommend DBing to your friend? I always recommend DR book.
Spoke to my friend again today and emailed her the titles of both DR and DB - told her DR was probably the better of the two to read in her sitch. I also sent her a link to this website.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
