What I'm getting at is her perspective is different than yours right now. That may change in the future, who knows. Their is a difference between judging someone and recognizing behavior that is unacceptable to you. One comes from a place of arrogance the other from a place of knowing yourself and being true to your values. Basically do you want to shame her and cast stones?
I am in no way condoning cheating. I think you and I can recognize our spouses behaviors that we do not like and we can either accept them or separate ourselves from that behavior.
This is something I am having to learn. How do I express myself in a non judgmental way. Who do I want to be when the crap hits the fan?
I do not like a lot of actions my X has chosen to do. If I judge her than is it okay for someone else to judge what I do, because I do not act "right" all the time.
Bro this line of questioning has more to do with me than you, because these are things I still struggle with.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
