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We all cry MyPain, sometimes I think/believe that our WAS does too. I hope so.


ME:51 W:46
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A running club is a great way to meet other people. And think of the exercise you'll be getting - double helping of GAL in one go. Getting a camera is a great idea as well. Why not check out and see if there's a photography club in the area you can join.

Don't worry too much about backsliding - we've all been there and done that. It's all part of the process. You'll have good days and bad days.

Take care and stay strong.


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Good morning DBers.

Really had a good night last night. Watched a good movie and got a good night's rest...the first in 3 weeks since this nightmare. I have a busy day today at work and I am looking forward to it.

Have a great day everyone..


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Originally Posted By: hotwheelsaust
We all cry MyPain, sometimes I think/believe that our WAS does too. I hope so.


My W told me about 7 months after BD that she had been crying nearly every day. That came as a real shock to me because she never showed me anything during that time but the Ice Princess facade. As for why she was crying, it was mainly guilt. It wasn't because she missed me or wanted to reconcile. She just felt guilty for hurting the kids and me.


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Hi MP, so glad you had a good night's sleep for a change smile I'm pleased as well that you've already started GALing and doing things just for you smile Like NQ said, don't worry about backsliding we all do this from time to time! Hope you've had a good day smile I've had a busy day at college and I've just got home to put my feet up smile


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I had a DB coaching session today. Learned a lot about my mistakes or mis-steps. Never thought about how much I had lost myself in the marriage. GALing is now my rediscovery. He gave me a lot to think on and a challenge for myself. Stay active and busy. Say no but lovngly do so..


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Brilliant news MP smile Everyone on here always seems to get a lot out of DB coaching. I wish they had them over in the UK and cheaper smile


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Welcome to DB Woody smile Great post smile It will give MP some comfort smile You are always welcome to pop over to other threads and comment on them. You will get to a stage where you feel more confident to give others advice, especially if it's a sitch that is familiar to you smile


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Hi All. I meant to post last night, but I was out GALing. Had dinner out with a friend. And watched part of the Redskins/Eagles game.

Well the H called me while I was at dinner. I didn't answered then he text me. He told me that he was preparing dinner, how far away from home was I? I told him that I had other plans and not to plan for dinner.

I came home a little before 9. We said hello to each other and then I went up to bed. I came down a few minutes later and he asked if I wanted to talk about my day and he asked if I had a good night. I told him, I had a great night said goodnight, and finally went to bed.

The thing is that I DID have a great night....especially focusing on something other than our M and sitch. And I slept very well..all through the night.

I got up this morning and he has been up most of the night..

I have a big meeting day at work, so I am loving from a distance and keeping the focus on me.


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^^^Great stuff, do more of that! Way to be mysterious! smile


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57
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