I still struggle with believing that STBX is crazy or in crisis I still think maybe its all in my head, maybe he is a normal person still. I have always been told that I over react and I am too sensitive so deep inside I still think this whole thing is my fault. I am working on finding a more accurate truth.
No, he's "a person" but normal? That's subjective. The difficulty in this is finding your perspective. If this was your friend you were talking to, who was telling you what's going on, what is it that you would think and say? That's perspective. The difference is that you have to live it. You're not "too sensitive" nor are you making this up. I'm not saying you're not more sensitive than your H can deal with, but that's his issue. You're... you and that's all you really can be. Or should be if you ask me.
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Called my girls to say good nite and the babysitter was at his house with them. Kind of shocking. He has them every other weekend and according to my D5 he was out to dinner with his girlfriend.
Not sure I see that as shocking at this point. Certainly very different from the person he presented to you before.
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He is a teenager. I dont know why I can't truly accept that.
It's not easy to compensate the sudden change. It'll take time to get there, but you will.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
The difficulty in this is finding your perspective. If this was your friend you were talking to, who was telling you what's going on, what is it that you would think and say? That's perspective. The difference is that you have to live it. You're not "too sensitive" nor are you making this up. I'm not saying you're not more sensitive than your H can deal with, but that's his issue. You're... you and that's all you really can be. Or should be if you ask me. 