Sounds like you have a lot of work to do on YOURSELF.
Can you do that work while in another relationship?

I would start doing it now, one way or the other.
There is no "easy buttons" here but just a lot of hard work.

Did you have another name when you were on DB before?
We could link up those threads here if we knew who you were.

Keep posting on this thread.

Me-70, D37,S36