BC39.....The fight for my marriage continues

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[quote=AccurayI'd stop asking her to define emotional connection -- you are just reinforcing her belief that she's not satisfied. Your actions should ideally say "I'm a kick ass husband. If you have a complaint I will listen and discuss it, but otherwise I'm confident with what I bring to the table"

If you are a kick ass husband to the best of your ability and she doesn't appreciate it, that is her failing, not yours, and you can't own fixing that.

If she has a complaint or request then address it. Otherwise just be the good man you are and avoid conversation that would betray that you question your value.
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I've actually never asked her to explain her interpretation of an emotional connection, but I understand what your saying about reinforcing her belief, so I will pay attention to that.