You know, when they are waffling back an forth, getting angry, whatever it is that we can't control... I like to vision myself on a boat in a storm. I can't control the weather, but I have to steer my boat. There are rocks around and the shore is looming... so I steer as well as I can, and while I can't ignore the storm, I don't let have all of my attention.
I like your storm analogy I feel the same way, like I am trying to keep calm in the eye of the storm! That is a great way of detaching for me. No matter what he is doing, acting grumpy, moody, distant, nit-picking, I just let it roll off me and remain constant in my actions. I am not so worried about how he will react, I am just acting how I see fit.
I think I have realized why it no longer bothers me. I used to be so afraid of the outcome of our relationship, and him leaving me. After all of these months have passed and all of the things that have happened between us, and things he has said to me, I am no longer worried about hanging on to him for dear life. I am ready to let him go if he wants to leave. Does that make sense?
I read this quote on FB today and it stuck with me: When a storm is coming, all other birds seek shelter. The Eagle alone, avoids the storm by flying above it. So, in the storms of life.... May your heart soar like an eagle.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
I feel the same way, like I am trying to keep calm in the eye of the storm! That is a great way of detaching for me. No matter what he is doing, acting grumpy, moody, distant, nit-picking, I just let it roll off me and remain constant in my actions. I am not so worried about how he will react, I am just acting how I see fit. 