Hey Magic Jack, we all change as we grow and get older. About having kids, saying something like 'our kids will be so cute because they look like you' is very different from a conversation about the nitty gritty of actually caring for little humans. A lot of people don't have that conversation, now you know the importance of it, you won't make that mistake again.
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She was always stressed out about something. That was something I didn't know before we got married, and it bothered me because I wanted her to just be ok with things and able to keep a good perspective and not freak out all the time.
We can't wish people to be who we would like them to be, it's impossible and disrespectful. Unconditional love means you accept our partner with all their warts. We either love them with their warts (and feel they love us, with ours)and learn to bring our best self to the table in our interactions or we move on.
You judge your W, and she feels it. Your outbursts of violence don't seem like a big deal to you but you don't know (or perhaps you do) what old wounds that might have opened in her or how it afraid she is of you.
The anger you have inside is not her fault, so maybe it's time to just let her move on and you figure out what that's all about.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
