Thanks for your post. I think, as Accuray pointed out, that we've pretty much touched the important things and what to do about them, so it probably makes sense for me to post only occasionally now. I see my IC this Thursday, and fly to the States next Wednesday, where I'll be for 3+ weeks. The plan there is to work on my social skills at Meetup gatherings, and perhaps make some friends. I'll also see my parents in Boston, and poke around NYC for a day on the way back.
The website associated with "psychological self help assertiveness" has good assertiveness building exercises - see Chap. 13 there.
Thanks -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.