Questions without answers...I'm tired of asking.

[RosaLinda]

Dawn "My own road map? Gonna work on that one! I really appreciate these words!"

Hey Dawn. I feel that your H's MLC is moving into a new level or stage. He seems as confused as ever, but he's trying to break away from his EA at least. Maybe his recent illness is helping there. How does he feel? 

But you seem so unhappy my friend. Sort of fried. Our MLCers have their handbook; I wish there WAS a roadmap for us Standers. Wonka wote something on T2's thread today that might help you:

Wonka "When MLCers start to come out of their tunnel, it is a very sensitive and tender stage. They are emotionally fragile and very tentative. This is the MOST critical stage for standers to be more sensitive, nurturing, and supportive to the MCLer while STFU on your own pain and resentments. 

It takes a while for us to process and work through our own issues and becoming whole again. Opened ended questions will help in getting the MLCer to see their stuff in new light and come to new insights & understandings. Don't try to fix them. In an odd way, you are the MENTOR to the MLCer at this stage. 

Do mentors dump their problems, issues and hurts on their mentees? No, they don't. Right. Now this is how you will need to approach things with your W going forward as she is dancing at the tunnel's opening...but not yet fully out of it. She's comfortable at that spot for the time being. It is okay for her."

Maybe this is how your H is, trying to come out, in a tentative and emotional state. 

Don't give up now Dawn. You've come so far.