W "feels" you holding on, and it makes her pull away harder. Show her you are not working on saving the M, and have let go. Might not hurt to even tell her, since she's telling you.
Did you reply to the text in any manner?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
