Does anyone know how to be when other spouse wants to talk. Any help would be appreciated..talk will happen very soon.
Please any suggestions....
Be the best possible listener. Make lots of eye contact. Nod. Ask clarification questions now and then just to let him know you are seeking to understand his position. VALIDATE his feelings. Validating is not agreeing/ disagreeing/ explaining/ negotiating/ arguing/ etc. It is simply acknowledgment. He says he wants a D? You say you're sorry he feels that way but you understand. You're not agreeing with his desire for D, simply acknowledging that his feelings are valid. Don't tell him your feelings, if he's like most other WAS's he isn't interested. Let him talk and you listen. Try to bury your emotions. Remember to show PMA. There will be time to cry later if you need to. Good luck, you can do this!
