Wouldn't Take Nothing for My Journey Now

[BrightFuture]

Bug, I commend you for speaking your needs and asking for it. I too felt unappreciated in our M. I was the primary bread winner for a number of years, and I also did a lot of things in the house. My H believes in equal rights, so we shared all chores in the house, expect he would do the remodel and repairs mostly by himself. But even then I helped where I could. I took my car for oil change and other work when needed. I did change a flat tire once. I also cooked nice dinners and sewed missing buttons on his shirts. I remember for the last few years I felt unappreciated, but I bottled up my feelings, and eventually it all grew into resentment. But I also was the same way. I said thanks for everything H did, but I hardly expressed any feelings. Looking on this from different prospective, if H would tell me that he needed to hear WOA, I would try to address it then. And now, even better, I’m learning to express my feelings and I’m getting better at it!

You are doing the right thing – asking for what you need. You are awesome, you know that, and your H knows that. There is nothing wrong in wanting to hear the acknowledgement once in a while. Please keep posting. I’m learning a lot from your posts.