And on the topic of her MA, she doesn't really need it for her current job but it's something that could give her more opportunity in the future (although its arguable because she makes more with her certificate job than she would in the MA job). We argued about that. She had about 70k in debt from getting her Bachelor's and I had wanted her to hold off on the MA but she wanted to do it. I worked two jobs to get us through that. But with the debt she owes she can't really take off work now to have a kid without the interest swamping us (I have benefits and make enough to probably support us but not support us and pay down the debt). This was a concern for me. I wanted her to work and pay down as much of her student loans as possible in the next 3-4 years so she could take some time off work and have a kid and I would be able to support us. She never really was big about having a kid anyway, so maybe this was a pipe dream on my end. Now though she is saying she wants to move on quickly due to her biological clock ticking, etc.

I know she felt like I pressured her about her student loan debt, but I resented that she really racked it up by living the high life when she was in school. She got to live in the fancy dorm downtown with the most expensive meal plan and paid for everything with loan money and all that stuff while I crashed with friends and drank gravy out of jars and worked my whole way through. I got out of school with a total of $3,000 debt, and because she owes so much money I didn't feel like I could move somewhere for more opportunities because she couldn't leave her job and get a license in another state, etc. So I was stuck trying to find work around the area we are currently in since she made more money. I do ok where I'm at, but I'm back in school now trying to get more education to get a better job.

T 10 years, M 4 years, both 28 years old
7/3/2013 - W wanted D, we attempted to reconcile
7/20/2013 - discovered W's EA, attempted to reconcile
8/24/2013 - W told me she wanted D, filed papers