I really like what AS said above....it matches what I've read so far in piecing situations.
From my own experience, I've had a good number of "false starts." I want to believe W is changing, so I continue to let her in, only to get crushed when I realize she hasn't made any changes....she's just manipulating because she's afraid to face the consequences of her choices.
So with that, I'm now waiting to see if W ever shows me something different. Every couple of weeks she starts in on how sorry she is, and how she loves me, but her actions don't match. As Mach1 once told me, she's really fighting hard to not hit bottom...and she won't start changing until after she gets there.
Another thing that rings true to me is that "the WAs has to really lose you, before they can come back to you." In my case, W really never lost me...at least until recently. I finally decided to move on with my life, and while I still have hope she'll figure things out, it no longer means reconciliation to me.
