At church this morning, it was a the start of a new series and the gist of the discussion was about bullying. The pastor made a number of points, but one that stuck with me was his second:
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You are not a doormat for abuse.
Of course, initially, I'm thinking this whole sermon is about my kids and the challenges they will face with this issue thru school, but the pastor made this point specifically about adults, and the relationships we maintain.
As I started to reflect on my relationship with my XW, I saw how this tied into my thoughts about self respect. I realize that I had become a doormat, and that my XW was, at least in this context, an emotional bully.
This whole idea seems to apply to a lot of us here, and it made me think about the book "Love Must Be Tough."
SE2 also made a comment to me this morning that got me thinking. She said it in jest, but she made the point about me getting along with overbearing women. One of the things that really started to annoy me over the last year was how much my XW bossed me....so I'm going to dig into that a little bit and see what's there.
