We talk a lot, current events, kids, work. There's also some talk about things that were issues in the past but only in terms of how those things are different now. I think that's good because I don't want to drag that old stuff forward, I think it's better just to deal with issues in the present.
WOA is my LL. I had a low tire on Fri, stopped by the tire store and they couldn't get it done right away, so they aired it up. Yesterday morning is was even lower and I didn't want to drive and take the chance of it going flat on the road. So I examined the possibilities and chose to put the spare on and drive to the tire shop, drop the tire off if need be, run my errands and pick it up later.
After I told H this story and he took it in stride, I said "I need to hear that you appreciate that I can do those things and then show up here looking like this (I looked fabulous)." He said, "I do, I think it's awesome." "But I need to hear that" "You are awesome" and he said it with heart.
Maybe not so artfully handled but it's getting my needs out there. Our M was filled with incidents where I felt unappreciated for doing things like the above. A little praise goes a long way, especially to a WOA person. I now know I need that and it's OK to express it.
The other key to all this for me is that old standby, staying in the moment.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
