It could be an EA at the mo. Be pleasant about it and ask him who the girl is that he's meeting. I would tread carefully though as if he's not told you then it means you've been snooping around. He will probably be cross with you that you have found things out and will be pretty angry with you. Be prepared for this! See if you can speak to a vet on here and get their advice as they've got more experience in this than I have. Hope the sitch sorts itself out soon
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
when I found out about ow, I asked my h to move out.he has been back three times only to leave again.(I allowed it) he says he wants D. I think he is still confused. its the lying that is so awful. I think really, how does that make h feel to lie so easily to me and kids?
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
It's really hard watching your spouse become the complete opposite to how they used to be. After BD mine would openly text OW in front of me, for phone calls he'd go outside "for a smoke".
WBW, your H doesn't see it as lying - it's his new reality. Mine has been doing it a lot lately. Unfortunately, mine believes all his lies.
Stay strong.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
My H is still lying about OW. He insisted no OW involved, and only excused because I did not care him, that is why he wants divorce. I know it is not true. But I have not tell him what I Found out. Noquitting, m H did the exactly same thing ...
M 18 yrs 5 & 7 yrs old kids H DB in 4/2013 H moved out in 11/2013
I know what you mean about the new reality. My H has lied to me in the past, but he will not be open with me about what he's doing. It's not really lying, it's more hiding things from me.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
My h now tells his parents that he wants divorce. What should I do? Since they knew now, Should I ask help from MIL?
Definitely not. No matter how she's been with you in the past and what she says to you, too many of us on here have trusted in-laws with something and ended up with it getting back to the spouse. I did with my SIL and I know TryingToDo180 did with her MIL. You've heard the saying "blood is thicker than water".
Definitely do not involve the in-laws. That's a very bad idea.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I agree with NQ here I still talk to my MIL but anything I don't want to get back to H I don't say a word!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I also agree with NQ and 180, in fact you shouldn't be talking to the in-laws at all about your sitch. If they press you, just say the two of you are taking some time apart to think things over and leave it at that. DO NOT get drawn into conversations, whatever you say WILL get back to your H and no matter what you tell them he will interpret it as you trying to gather the troops against him. Nearly every time I've read a sitch in which the LBS tried to reach out to the in-laws it resulted in a nasty fight between the WAS and LBS. Same thing with mutual friends, just don't do it!! The only people you should talk to about your sitch are people that know you but do not know your H and have no interaction with him, and people here on these forums.
I agree with AS I have got into arguments with H over something that MIL said to him and interpreted it wrongly. I've also lost a mutual friend as she said she didn't want to get involved in our sitch and so she decided not to be friends with either of us. These things happen, it's sad but hopefully it will all work out for the best in the end
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
