My ex's sister lived in another state and I was worried that after the D, she would move closer to her sister and I would lose the ability to see them. I had a radius clause placed into the agreement that, although might be tough in court, ensured to keep the kids close to me. So far, 3 years later, they are 12 minutes away.
You may not believe this broba, but, my X called the police on me 3 times for bs trying to either get me thrown out of our house or to force me to bring the kids back from a playdate. All failed. However, today, my XW and I can sit at a table together or, let her put my name down as a reference for a job application (you don't want your ex to fail as much as many in the death throes of divorce feel when they are here).
Time....is what you need...although I know it goes very slowly now. Build a new life, as painful as it can be sometimes. It WILL get better. Get the D done.
Finally, I may be wrong, but there are times when I think my ex thinks she made a mistake, but don't waste time hoping for that. Don't wait for the ship to come in. Row out to meet it. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
