The subject of church is very topical at the moment (see the thread of RockJC) so I thought I’d share with you my church experience.
This weeks Church service was dedicated to the children and was called “Back to School Sunday” where all of the children who have moved up to senior school (year 7) would attend church in their new school uniforms and the service would centre around them.
Earlier in the week I had told D12 that I wouldn’t attend as that would mean sitting with W and I didn’t particularly want to do that. However after seeing the upset look on her face I decided that I would attend as I would have attend such events in the future as a divorced parent and I couldn't let W’s actions dictate my future.
In parallel to this I received this text from W.
W: Regarding Sunday can we go to Church in one car so D12 doesn’t feel she has to choose between us and also show her as parents we can be there together for her?.
Me: OK
As things happened W’s changed plans and we eventually went to church in separate cars, D12 traveling with W.
In church I sat next to W but not talking. However as part of the church service members of the congregation offer the peace to each other, we offer our hand to shake and say “Peace be with you”. At this point I offered my hand to W and she ignored it, I thought she may have not seen it so I offered again she ignored it again but this time she turned her back on me. For the rest of the service she angled herself so her back was towards me.
I mean I know we are not getting on and are getting a D but it doesn’t take too much to do a small hand shake in the house of the lord, and I thought the text earlier in the week was leading us that way. Well maybe not
Anyway I feel a little bit hurt and upset(rejected even) but I’ll get over it and press on.
