I don't is he was lying to me last night or everytime we were together in the past.
I have to get myself out of this situation. My emotional health cannot handle this. He will not leave, so how do I detach if he is still in the house? I will have to make myself scarce moving forward and stick to it. He wants the benefits of the home I provide..dinner, clean clothes, and a good wife, but he does not want a relationship with me.. Hard to face that.
If he is going to be here and not with his OW (which I think because he wants me to agree to everything including selling the house because he needs the equity), then I can't be around when he is here. I will no longer be available for him to abuse and hurt.
He has serious issues that he cannot face. He is narcissistic, self-absorbing, and self-obsessed, these traits I have never seen in him until now. I cannot change him.
He is dreaming of a fantasy in which he sees his life as being happier with someone who hangs on to his every word and one where is always is the "hero."...saving the day for everyone. He does not want to feel or acknowledge that he is inadequate in any fashion. This is the self-absorb alien H that I do not like.
Years ago, I had to admit my issues and sought the support of a great IC to help me face them without being fearful of what it said about me.
My H is gone.... So I have to be gone, detached, unfeeling toward him moving forward.
