Taking A Stand; What's my Position?

[Mimi00]

Hi every one, I didn't know there were responses in my thread; thanks for the encouragement & wisdom. I decided to cut down the time I spend here b/c for me, it keeps me too focused on H, so I hadn't thought of checking my thread.

Mimi, even though your timeline is counseling from last year, your BD is only July. That is so so little time. I realize you are long distance. So, you begin living your life for you, which it seems, you are still in a huge holding/waiting pattern.

We all would rather be with our spouses, otherwise we wouldn't be here. But you can stand still or move forward. Big difference between moving forward and moving on.

I haven't seen much forward movement going on. What are your plans in work and social life?

Hi Ruby. I moved 3 weeks ago and started a new job, so I've been short on cash and not able to do much.

I finally got my first check a few days ago so here's what I did so far this weekend:

- I purchased a gym membership, I plan to start this week. I have about 10-15 lbs I could stand to get rid of and it's something to do that's productive.

- Did a fun 5k run friday night

- went to a 5am prayer service held on the beach saturday morning

- Went to a Divorce Recovery class (even though I'm not divorced yet) as well on saturday morning/afternoon

- Also every day this past week I've walk my dog to a secluded open field and while he plays I use that time to take in nature and talk to God, yell & scream if I need to lol

- I have picked up extra shifts for every Saturday this month to keep busy and make extra money to continue GALs.



I don't know if I like the Divorce Recovery class...but I will stick with it for a few weeks before I decide, hopefully it will get better.

I am filling my calendar up as much as possible...it's a bit overwhelming b/c I am a home-body/introvert some what... but going out more is a much needed 180 for me.

Thanks again for your kind words/advice.
Maybe I will post again in a week so if anything significant happens.