By the time a couple gets to piecing the LBS has spent many long months doing research, introspection, maybe counseling, etc. They have grown and changed. Meanwhile the WAS has done absolutely nothing except indulge in the ultimate acts of selfishness.
Speaking for myself, I can see this.
By the time I started DBing, I knew I was in a bad place. My marriage was a mess. My life was a mess. My mind was a mess.
I worked hard to make changes and corrections. I read a lot. I went to counseling with my pastor and a psychologist. I came here and opened up myself like I have never done before.
So, now my W has no clue who I am. I don't act like I used to. I don't think like I used to. I don't react like I used to.
So when it comes down to it, I have to ask myself... Is the prize worth the price?
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
