Boy oh boy Raine, this sure strikes a chord with me too.
Raine "He said he looked in his rear view mirror and there was a woman in an SUV, attractive, our age, and when he looked back again, and she was crying, uncontrollably. He wanted to get out of his car and comfort her and tell her it's going to be okay. That she will get through this. That makes me emotional because that could have been me. That has been me. But he was never there. It's really difficult to hear him talking about other people and now even strangers that he wants to be there for but he doesn't seem to know or remember or want to know what I was going through when he left. I held it together and validated."
Doesn't that hurt? That they have such compassion and time for other women, but our pain goes unoticed. They ignore us, complain about us, walk away when we're talking, cheat on us, but they are oblivious that these things might actually cause us pain. Or maybe they notice but just don't care. Your H doesn't ask or care about all the pain YOU experienced, like that time he was having lunch with OW and was so worried about her getting back to work and all, yet wants to get out of his car and comfort some stranger and tell her it's going to be okay???
It's great you were able to hold it together and validate him, Raine. You are amazing
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
