Hi Nero! I'm so sorry your family expects you to be the sole caretaker for your mom. And then to be so nasty about it and tell you that you're a bad daughter?! And that they hate you!! Sheesh! I bet it's because you live alone most of the time, hence don't have or maybe are not deserving of a life. Double sheesh! 

Good for you for deciding to  to take a stand, and no longer be the family's dumping ground and beast of burden. You're right - they don't seem to appreciate all that you do at all. 

Have you made some kind of plan for digging in your toes and demanding some respect? Nero's last stand! Maybe a simple "I'm busy" will suffice. After all you are working now, right?

Hey I started to purge my house of 38 years of accumulated junk too, and for the same reason as uR - I wouldn't want anyone else to have to do it should I die. Or run away. I was looking at our old paperwork in boxes in the cellar today. Why do we need our phone bills from 1987? I am not too confortable just chucking it all out in the trash though, and the thought of shredding it all is daunting. And don't you think courderoy Annie Hall pants will come back into style?

Linda

Me 65, Ex 64
M 38 y
2 adult S, 4 G-Kids
MLC 11/07
BD 12/09
D 3/14
Dating nice guy 7/14
Engaged to nice guy 12/17