Hi RH..nice to hear from you. The family dynamics had a lot to do with problems in our sitch. My H and I had very different upbringings and itreflected in our parenting styles and did cause a lot of conflict between us. I'm sure our kids also used that to manipulate us on many occasions. That is why my DB coach told me to DB my kids also who all were living at home at the time.
Its tough having 18-25 years old under your roof, believing they are adults but certainly not acting like it. My attitude to them had to change and I also had to recognise that, whilst I will always love them deeply, they were no longer my No. 1 priority, they after all had to start acting like adults and taking responsibility for their own lives. I needed to get back to concentrating on my relationship with H, which was neglected for many years.
H had tried to tell me that many times, but I wasn't listening.
We are going well. My H has accepted a new job which he will start next week. We are excited as it has meant that life is very much returning to "normal" on many levels. We have booked a short trip to Vanuatu at the beginning of November, and are both looking forward to it so much. We have had our fair share of trials and tribulations in the last two years. We will make the most of every minute.
I always look forward to your posts RH. As I have said before, you have a wonderful way with words and I feel like I am reading a romance novel each time I check out your thread. Take care and keep up the great work. Your H also needs credit for the intelligent and caring way he is approaching your new R. He is a nice guy and that always shone through in your posts.
