M r Bond, I just don't understand your perspective on a lot of my issues.
//you can't have any compassion for her// I have compassion for her
//you can't see that she's hurting// I see that she is hurting
//You will never forgive her// I forgive her daily and will continue to forgive her.
//you kicking her out of the church// I didn't kick her out of the church. If she feels the need to attend church, there are dozens out there to go to.
//She's already had to deal with it from the sexual abuse// I don't know if she was abused. She denies it. Something is wrong, but who knows what.
//you, like the other men in her life, are trying to control her.// I am trying to put legitimate boundaries in place. Boundaries are a type of control. You can't have healthy relationships without some level of control. None of us lives life completely free.
//if you continue to walk away when your feelings are hurt// I would not call what I am doing "Walking away". I was %100 committed to this marriage. I was there for her, I was understanding and compassionate. There is a point, however, when someone tells you that they don't love you, don't want to be with you and that they will NEVER treat you with any respect, that you have to let them go. She walked away from me. Not the other way around.
//There is so much more that you can do// What? I really think the best thing for us is D and separation. Maybe then, she can start healing too. The way we are living now is not good for her, me or the kids. I don't see how it can get any better.
