Separated, D filed, possible emotional affair

[MagicJack]

I wouldn't apologize for anything yet. It will look like weakness.

I started NC with my W two weeks ago. It's probably not total NC but she told me a few weeks ago when she announced the D to me that she did not want to discuss the M at all, and only wanted to discuss the D process. I messed up a little within the first few days, but for the past week I basically got the hang of it. I haven't reached out to her in any way since last Tuesday when I told her what my COBRA was going to cost her and she might want to check out other options.

She actually texted me out of the blue on Wednesday something related to assigning blame for the destruction of our marriage, and I was extremely tempted to respond and get into it with her but a friend I was with who I trust told me silence sends a very strong message. I didn't respond at all and Thursday morning she called my cell phone and I didn't pick up and then she called my work phone just to ramble at me about something that was not important at all and I acted busy and had to go.

Since you have kids I think you should answer when she calls, but you can conduct yourself on the phone in such a way where you don't pick up as if you were waiting for it to ring, you sound happy and unconcerned with the ongoing situation, and you are ending the call first since you have things to do. For texting if it's not related to the kids you can delay answering or not answer, whatever.