@Planet - I am going to remain dark unless absolutely necessary.
@labug - mostly because W never answers her phone; even if it's important, she'll tell me "It's a phone, not a leash." However, I typically answer on every call and am real available. She texted me the other day asking about what kind of cable modem to get for her new apartment - so I'm good enough to contact when something is needed. So I decided to do the same. Her point is probably valid in that she should have access if I have D10 - but leave a text or a vm.
And I'm sick of the "my" kids game. Yes, legally, they are hers, but I have raised them, they call me Dad, I have been with them non-stop for 3 years. She only does this when she's mad - previously she has told them I'm more their father because I have raised them.
I probably should apologize for the non-answering. W will see it as controlling, but it's stupid. I would only apologize not to give her an excuse to say something.
