//Does this possibility of a sexual abuse history change anything for you?//
No, she is emotionally abusive and I can't live like this anymore. I need a D and a separation. I still love her, and once I am away from the abuse, I am sure the anger will dissipate and I will forgive.
Regardless of if sexual abuse is the cause, there is something in her past that has emotionally damaged her, and I am not sure if she is capable of doing anything other than what she is currently doing.