I know what you mean about the new reality. My H has lied to me in the past, but he will not be open with me about what he's doing. It's not really lying, it's more hiding things from me.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!