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[RegularJoe]

Hi, I am new to the forum and am glad to have found it.
My W and I have been married for 13 years and together for 15. We've had our issues in the past and have gone to marriage counseling ( 10 years ago).
We have a beautiful daughter who is 10 and a wonderful little boy who just turned 6.
Anyhow, during these past 13 years, my wife has complained that she wanted more of a partner and that I seemed to be more of a another kid in the household. I have tried in the past to step up and take charge, however she is very controlling and needs things done her way. If they're not done the way she believes is right, then you're dumb. I am the type of person who is very easy going and don't put up much of a fight if she has a strong opinion about something.
Early last month she told me that she didn't think our relationship was working and that she was done trying. She also told me that I needed to come up with a roadmap to fix our issues, but that she wasn't going to do anything. She went on a beach trip with the family for a week (camping) and I visited 2 nights there ( I had to work). In that time I saw a therapist but didn't have a set "roadmap" yet so I didn't say anything to her about it... Until a week later and she told me it was too late. She said she believed our marriage was over and that if it had meant anything to me I would've fought harder and given her the "roadmap" while she was at the beach. That was 8/30/2013. She said wanted a separation and that we would still be family because of the kids but the marriage in her eyes was over and that 13 years was enough time. Right now I am still in shock and it doesn't seem real ... Our finances don't allow any of us to move out and she hasn't thrown me out (yet). We are still in the same house in the same room.. We have not been intimate in a long time and we just sleep there. I want to make things better, but don't know how. There have been too many words for them to really mean anything, so I set up some DB phone coaching from here for help. I am still in a daze and worried and scared for my family ..especially my children ...
Anyhow..that is my story ...any comments are welcome as it helps to know I'm not the only one in this situation
Joe