With all due respect, HopefulStill, there was very little in your comments that gave the impression you thought I would successfully win my wife back. Quite the opposite. And yes, I can be defensive, particularly when I feel I am being attacked. I hope that I can be defensive without being nasty. I welcome criticism but I cannot help but arch an eyebrow when people cannot handle criticism of their own criticism and depart with a little dig disguised as a helpful observation about a relationship they know little to nothing about.
Wonka, thank you for the reply, I do appreciate all the help I can get. Yes, I'm wound up pretty tight right now, I feel like I've had people swinging two-by-fours at my head all day in this thread.
Let me be clear: I welcome criticism and input, but I feel like either I have not been making myself clear or people have been misunderstanding me.
I have a lot of things that are weighing on my mind:
I'm deeply worried about my wife's health.
I want to be able to make sure he gets the treatment she needs and is currently not getting.
I've realized I'm a "fixer," and not being able to fix this is driving me nuts.
The counterintuitive nature of DBing drives me nuts—I worry that I am not doing enough and that my wife is expecting something from me that I'm not giving her.
The occasional text(s) and then days/weeks of radio silence from the wife is driving me nuts.
She asked me a direct question, one of if not the only one since January, and people here are bashing me for wanting to reply.
I have been suffering through a health scare regarding my heart.
Right now is I can hear the clock ticking.. Another court date in less than month.
We're rapidly approaching the first anniversary of my dad's death and the holiday season—the first without my wife and my father.
So yeah, I'm just frazzled and I feel like I'm being misunderstood.
Good news for the day: a clean bill of health from the cardiologist this morning!
